6. THEY’RE RELIABLE
If your partner makes you wait for hours on your date night, or never responds to your texts, that’s a sign that they aren’t really invested in your relationship. A good, respectable SO will know what your needs are and they wouldn’t flake out on your plans. They also wouldn’t ignore your texts or calls, because talking to you wouldn’t be a chore for them.
7. THEY FIGHT FAIR
Even with the most successful relationships, fights erupt every now and again. And that’s normal when two personalities clash!
Licensed clinical psychologist Jennifer Kromberg, PsyD, says, “Some degree of fighting in a relationship is not only inevitable, but also necessary to create growth. The problem for couples is not that they fight—it’s how they fight.”
That being said, respect should never take a back seat. A respectful partner will fight fairly, with no striking under the belt, no derogatory names and definitely no physical violence. They will try to listen to your argument and respond rationally – that’s a big sign of respect.
There’s nothing more satisfying than knowing that your partner loves and respects you. However, respect can sometimes be more difficult to foster than love – it can also be more important. Love with no respect turns into an egotistic relationship, which would never last for very long and will definitely end in tears.
Research professor and author Peter Gray, Ph.D, says, “To respect is to understand that the other person is not you, not an extension of you, not a reflection of you, not your toy, not your pet, not your product. In a relationship of respect, your task is to understand the other person as a unique individual and learn how to mesh your needs with his or hers and help that person achieve what he or she wants to achieve.”
So, if you’re having second thoughts, or even the slightest doubt that your partner perhaps doesn’t respect you as much as you deserve, maybe your relationship is not meant to be. And of course, like with every partnership, respect should always go both ways. Start off by respecting your partner yourself and soon enough you’ll see the same come back to you. It will certainly make your relationship a lot happier.