The law of attraction is this: You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you are.
– Dr. Wayne Dyer
Quick question: Have you ever wondered what makes someone attractive?
It’s commonplace for us to place a particular emphasis on certain things – intelligence, looks, humour, etc. – and for good reason. Human beings are wired to search for certain attributes in someone else when determining who we invite into our lives.
But for many of us, we can’t quite articulate what makes someone attractive. Many of us “just know.” Call it a gut feeling or intuition, but we know it when we feel it. Attraction is a broad and complex thing. It can be intimate or platonic; physical or emotional; rational or emotional.
Some of us are attracted to people that ultimately end up hurting us – something that is perplexing and inexplicably inviting at the same time. Some of us are attracted to people that imitate our values, aspirations and purpose. Some of our inclinations and thoughts evolve, including on what makes someone attractive or unattractive
Individualistic tendencies aside, there are certain behaviours that tend to attract more people than they repel. Most of us would agree that spending time with someone that is negative and pessimistic is not something we’d enjoy. We’re repelled by these types of behaviours, which are unattractive to say the least.
On the other hand, we appreciate the people in our lives that display genuinely positive behaviours and actions. This leads us to the topic at hand: what makes for an attractive personality.